You’ve Been Holding It Down.
Now You Get to Be Held
You’ve outgrown the strong-but-smiling version of you
not to keep proving, but to start healing. No more ghosting your truth to make other people comfortable.
You’ve Been Holding It Down.
Now You Get to Be Held
You’ve outgrown the
strong-but-smiling version of you
not to keep proving, but to start healing. No more ghosting your truth to make other people comfortable.
MEET VALENCIA NEWSOME POSEY
I built a whole life trying to prove I was okay. I grew up in the hood, raised by a single mom. My dad was an addict. Some days, I got a glimpse of the father I needed, most days, I didn’t. Then I became a mom at 15. And people didn’t offer help… they offered judgment. So I made it okay myself.
I became the strong one. The responsible one. The one who didn’t need anybody. And I killed it. Raised my boys. Built a career. Held it all down. But even with all the wins, deep down… I was still waiting for someone to say, “I see you.”
That’s where The MOMent™ Method was born in that space between strength and survival. For the women who lead the home, keep the schedules, hold the prayers… and feel like they’re unraveling inside.
Hey, I’m Valencia Newsome Posey, founder of The MOMent™ Method. This is a real, raw space for women who are tired of being the strong one… and finally want to be the whole one.
If your brain won’t stop looping… if your strength feels like a performance…
If your outside looks like success, but your inside is spiraling, you’re my people.
This isn’t self-help. This is a sacred pause. A space to stop performing and start being. Let’s get real. Let’s get free. This is your MOMent™.
MEET VALENCIA NEWSOME POSEY
I built a whole life trying to prove I was okay. I grew up in the hood, raised by a single mom. My dad was an addict. Some days, I got a glimpse of the father I needed, most days, I didn’t. Then I became a mom at 15. And people didn’t offer help… they offered judgment. So I made it okay myself.
I became the strong one. The responsible one. The one who didn’t need anybody. And I killed it. Raised my boys. Built a career. Held it all down. But even with all the wins, deep down… I was still waiting for someone to say, “I see you.”
That’s where The MOMent™ Method was born in that space between strength and survival. For the women who lead the home, keep the schedules, hold the prayers… and feel like they’re unraveling inside.
Hey, I’m Valencia Newsome Posey, founder of The MOMent™ Method. This is a real, raw space for women who are tired of being the strong one… and finally want to be the whole one.
If your brain won’t stop looping… if your strength feels like a performance…
If your outside looks like success, but your inside is spiraling, you’re my people.
This isn’t self-help. This is a sacred pause. A space to stop performing and start being. Let’s get real. Let’s get free. This is your MOMent™.
You’ve Been Strong Too Long. You know it.
You know how to hold it down the house, the job, the people. But holding it together? That’s been getting harder to fake.
You’re tired of hearing “you’re so strong” when all you want is for someone to ask if you’re okay. Your brain’s loud, your body’s tired, and no one sees the fight behind your smile. You’ve done everything they said would make you happy, the degrees, the career, the family, the grind. But under all that?
There’s a version of you that’s exhausted from being “on” all the time…
…a version of you that’s whispering, “I can’t do this like this anymore.”
If that’s you, you’re in the right place. You don’t need to be fixed. You just need space to stop pretending.
You’ve Been Strong Too Long.
You know it.
You know how to hold it down the house, the job, the people. But holding it together? That’s been getting harder to fake.
You’re tired of hearing “you’re so strong” when all you want is for someone to ask if you’re okay. Your brain’s loud, your body’s tired, and no one sees the fight behind your smile. You’ve done everything they said would make you happy, the degrees, the career, the family, the grind. But under all that?
There’s a version of you that’s exhausted from being “on” all the time…
…a version of you that’s whispering, “I can’t do this like this anymore.”
If that’s you, you’re in the right place. You don’t need to be fixed. You just need space to stop pretending.
3-Month Private Coaching
This is for the woman who’s DONE performing, peacekeeping, and picking up the emotional slack for everyone but herself.
You’ll go from overthinking, emotional spiraling, and identity exhaustion… to emotional regulation, voice clarity, and self-led wholeness. Through deep nervous system work and identity reclamation, you’ll finally feel safe to be yourself without apology.
You’re not here for another mindset module.
You’re here for a full nervous system reset, one that helps you:
Unhook from the thought loops that keep you doubting your enoughness
Stop over-functioning to feel “worthy”
Stop over-functioning to feel “worthy”
12-Month Group Program
For the woman who’s ready for consistent emotional check-ins, truth reminders, and soul-led rhythm support.
You’ll stop minimizing, muting, and managing everyone’s emotions, and start anchoring back into your truth, your needs, and your rhythm. This is gentle, ongoing support that fits into your real life, not another thing to fall behind on.”
You’ve got the awareness, now you need a rhythm.
Inside this circle, you’ll build emotional routines that hold you, when life doesn’t.
This isn’t another “accountability group” that you ghost after week 2.
It’s your practice space. Your nervous system dojo.
Your reminder:
You don’t have to shrink to be safe.
A 15-minute micro-coaching call designed to interrupt
the spiral and bring your voice back online.
You’re holding a lot. This call is your space to exhale. Say what you’ve been scared to say and finally feel heard, not fixed.
Quiet the noise. Hear your truth.
Book your free MOMent RESET Call™
You’ve been carrying the weight. Thinking your way out of the pain.
Overriding your own truth just to keep things moving.
But when was the last time someone saw you before you had to explain yourself?
This 15-minute MOMent RESET Call™ is your emotional exhale.
Not a strategy call. Not a “book a breakthrough” gimmick.
Just real space, real safety, and one moment that belongs entirely to you.
What Happens on the Call:
A gentle check-in: Where are you holding the most emotional weight?
Uncover one repeating thought trauma left behind (that’s running the show)
A micro-tool or truth-reflection to help her interrupt the spiral
An invitation, if aligned, into your deeper coaching containers
Her ONE WIN From the Call
She hears her real voice maybe for the first time in years.
She’ll walk away saying:
Damn… I didn’t even realize how heavy that
thought was until I said it out loud.
This space is for the woman who…
Keeps showing up strong, but don’t know who she is when no one’s watching.
You’re the one people lean on. The one who handles it. But some days you look in the mirror and can’t even find yourself, just the version that performs, that fixes, that survives.
Is tired of holding in breakdowns just to keep up appearances.
You get quiet when it gets heavy, disappear behind smiles, laugh it off when you wanna scream. You’re scared if you ever actually let go, you won’t come back from it.
Built the life she was told to want, but still feels like something’s missing.
You did everything “right”, got the job, the partner, the degrees, the title. But why does it still feel like you’re faking it? Like you built a life that doesn’t even know you?
Feels stuck in loops, same fights, same fears, same triggers
You say you’re fine, but the anxiety be on loop. Same arguments. Same shutdowns. Same days where you check out and can’t explain why. You feel crazy but you’re just tired.
Is exhausted from managing everybody else’s needs but scared to name her own
You’ve been the peacekeeper, the planner, the strong one. You shrink so they don’t feel small. But you’re choking on your silence, and no one even knows you’re drowning.
Doesn’t want to just cope anymore, she wants to be free
You’re tired of patching yourself up just enough to function. You’re done making it look good. You want real peace. Real clarity. Real rest. Not this polished survival.
You don’t need another mindset trick or productivity hack.
You need a MOMent™
This space is for the woman who…
Keeps showing up strong, but don’t know who she is when no one’s watching.
You’re the one people lean on. The one who handles it. But some days you look in the mirror and can’t even find yourself, just the version that performs, that fixes, that survives.
Is tired of holding in breakdowns just to keep up appearances.
You get quiet when it gets heavy, disappear behind smiles, laugh it off when you wanna scream. You’re scared if you ever actually let go, you won’t come back from it.
Built the life she was told to want, but still feels like something’s missing.
You did everything “right”, got the job, the partner, the degrees, the title. But why does it still feel like you’re faking it? Like you built a life that doesn’t even know you?
Feels stuck in loops, same fights, same fears, same triggers
You say you’re fine, but the anxiety be on loop. Same arguments. Same shutdowns. Same days where you check out and can’t explain why. You feel crazy but you’re just tired.
Is exhausted from managing everybody else’s needs but scared to name her own
You’ve been the peacekeeper, the planner, the strong one. You shrink so they don’t feel small. But you’re choking on your silence, and no one even knows you’re drowning.
Doesn’t want to just cope anymore, she wants to be free
You’re tired of patching yourself up just enough to function. You’re done making it look good. You want real peace. Real clarity. Real rest. Not this polished survival.
You don’t need another mindset trick or productivity hack.
You need a MOMent™
The MOMent™ Method isn’t just a catchy name. It’s the interruption you didn’t know you were allowed to take.
It’s for the woman who’s been celebrated for her strength, but never checked on for her pain. The one who knows how to hold it down, but can’t remember the last time she felt held.
MOMent stands for Mirror. Own. Move. But it’s not a framework you check off. It’s a gut-level pause where you stop performing, tell the truth about what it’s costing you, and finally learn how to move forward without losing yourself in the process.
Whether you’re a mother, a mentor, the dependable one, or just a woman carrying more than she can name, this MOMent™ is yours.
The MOMent™ Method isn’t just a catchy name. It’s the interruption you didn’t know you were allowed to take.
It’s for the woman who’s been celebrated for her strength, but never checked on for her pain. The one who knows how to hold it down, but can’t remember the last time she felt held.
MOMent stands for Mirror. Own. Move. But it’s not a framework you check off. It’s a gut-level pause where you stop performing, tell the truth about what it’s costing you, and finally learn how to move forward without losing yourself in the process.
Whether you’re a mother, a mentor, the dependable one, or just a woman carrying more than she can name, this MOMent™ is yours.
The MOMentum™ Coaching Circle
This ain’t your average “check-in once a week” accountability group. This is your practice space to actually live what you’ve been learning because knowing the pattern doesn’t mean you’ve healed the wound. And just because you’re self-aware doesn’t mean you know what to do with it.
You’ve done the work, the therapy, the journaling, the praying. But sometimes, the loops come back louder, and life keeps handing you new tests you don’t feel ready for.
This circle is where we say the thing. The truth you’ve been too “strong” to say out loud. It’s where we untangle the quiet thoughts that make you spiral in silence and we build new rhythms that feel safe, not forced.
This is for the woman who’s ready to stop shrinking, micromanaging her emotions, and needing permission to breathe. You’re done performing worthiness. You’re ready to feel it for real.
👉🏽We meet monthly to check in, say the thing, and stay anchored in your truth. This is your reminder that you don’t have to do life on survival mode anymore.
Rewrite Your Story: MOMent Academy™
You’re not new to healing, you’re just tired of healing in secret. You’ve outgrown the affirmations. The mindset hacks. The “I’m fine.” You’ve done the church shout and the self-help shuffle, and yet when life hits, you still spiral. You still shrink. You still second-guess whether you’re allowed to have needs. You’re not the problem. You’re just running on emotional codes that never got rewritten.
In this 12-week group experience, we don’t focus on “fixing” you. We focus on helping you finally feel safe enough to stop performing. We untangle the childhood stories that taught you to hustle for love. We rewrite the emotional contracts that made you hide your truth, and we help you lead your life from clarity, not control.
This is for the high-achieving woman who’s done proving she’s enough, and is ready to finally feel it.
👉🏽 You don’t need another thing to add to your to-do list. You need the space to come home to your voice, your values, and your truth.
The Unmask Deep Reset Experience™
You’re not falling apart. You’re just finally tired of holding what no one helped you carry. This isn’t mindset work. This isn’t another “breakthrough” moment that fades after a week. This is a full-body, soul-deep reset where you finally stop performing strength and start making peace with your truth.
We don’t just talk about your patterns; we unmask the root that created them. The parents who didn’t see you. The friends who outgrew you once you stopped dimming your light. The coaches, leaders, or bosses who praised your grind but never your grace. The pressure to keep proving you’re not a mistake just because you’ve had to do it all alone.
You’ve spent your whole life proving you’re not broken. But what if you never were? What if you’ve just been tired from carrying too much for too long?
This 1:1 experience is where you finally put it all down. We get honest. We cry if we need to. We dig through the pieces you’ve been patching with perfection. And we rebuild gently, deeply, and without apology. This is for the woman who’s done coping. She’s done surviving. She’s ready to remember who she was before life made her forget.
👉🏽 You don’t need another strategy. You need a space where you don’t have to explain yourself, just a place to exhale and start becoming again.
The MOMentum™ Coaching Circle
This ain’t your average “check-in once a week” accountability group. This is your practice space to actually live what you’ve been learning because knowing the pattern doesn’t mean you’ve healed the wound. And just because you’re self-aware doesn’t mean you know what to do with it.
You’ve done the work, the therapy, the journaling, the praying. But sometimes, the loops come back louder, and life keeps handing you new tests you don’t feel ready for.
This circle is where we say the thing. The truth you’ve been too “strong” to say out loud. It’s where we untangle the quiet thoughts that make you spiral in silence and we build new rhythms that feel safe, not forced.
This is for the woman who’s ready to stop shrinking, micromanaging her emotions, and needing permission to breathe. You’re done performing worthiness. You’re ready to feel it for real.
👉🏽We meet monthly to check in, say the thing, and stay anchored in your truth. This is your reminder that you don’t have to do life on survival mode anymore.
Rewrite Your Story: MOMent Academy™
You’re not new to healing, you’re just tired of healing in secret. You’ve outgrown the affirmations. The mindset hacks. The “I’m fine.” You’ve done the church shout and the self-help shuffle, and yet when life hits, you still spiral. You still shrink. You still second-guess whether you’re allowed to have needs. You’re not the problem. You’re just running on emotional codes that never got rewritten.
In this 12-week group experience, we don’t focus on “fixing” you. We focus on helping you finally feel safe enough to stop performing. We untangle the childhood stories that taught you to hustle for love. We rewrite the emotional contracts that made you hide your truth, and we help you lead your life from clarity, not control.
This is for the high-achieving woman who’s done proving she’s enough, and is ready to finally feel it.
👉🏽 You don’t need another thing to add to your to-do list. You need the space to come home to your voice, your values, and your truth.
The Unmask Deep Reset Experience™
You’re not falling apart. You’re just finally tired of holding what no one helped you carry. This isn’t mindset work. This isn’t another “breakthrough” moment that fades after a week. This is a full-body, soul-deep reset where you finally stop performing strength and start making peace with your truth.
We don’t just talk about your patterns; we unmask the root that created them. The parents who didn’t see you. The friends who outgrew you once you stopped dimming your light. The coaches, leaders, or bosses who praised your grind but never your grace. The pressure to keep proving you’re not a mistake just because you’ve had to do it all alone.
You’ve spent your whole life proving you’re not broken. But what if you never were? What if you’ve just been tired from carrying too much for too long?
This 1:1 experience is where you finally put it all down. We get honest. We cry if we need to. We dig through the pieces you’ve been patching with perfection. And we rebuild gently, deeply, and without apology. This is for the woman who’s done coping. She’s done surviving. She’s ready to remember who she was before life made her forget.
👉🏽 You don’t need another strategy. You need a space where you don’t have to explain yourself, just a place to exhale and start becoming again.
Grace in Action: Choosing Peace Over Perfection
What If You Chose Peace Over Perfection?
You’ve spent your whole life trying to get it ‘right.’
Trying to be the best mom. The best employee. The best version of yourself.
But all that trying, fixing, and perfecting? It’s keeping you in a cycle of never feeling like you’re enough.
Here’s the hard truth: Perfection is a moving target.
And chasing it? It’s exhausting.
But what if, instead of striving for perfection, you chose peace?
What if you gave yourself permission to rest, to be enough as you are, to stop proving your worth through overworking and over-giving?
That’s what grace is, it’s the space between expectations and self-acceptance.
And you deserve to live there.
In this post, we’re going to:
✔️ Help you stop striving for an impossible standard.
✔️ Show you how to embrace progress over perfection.
✔️ Teach you how to choose peace over proving.
Because you don’t have to earn peace, you just have to choose it.
How to Stop Chasing Perfection & Start Choosing Peace
1. Let Go of the “Someday” Trap
How many times have you told yourself:
📌 “Once I have it all together, then I’ll feel better.”
📌 “Once I lose the weight, then I’ll feel confident.”
📌 “Once I get ahead at work, then I’ll finally slow down.”
But here’s the problem, ‘someday’ never comes.
There will always be more to do, more to achieve, more expectations to meet. And if you keep waiting for perfection before allowing yourself peace, you’ll be waiting forever.
💭 What to do instead:
Next time you find yourself thinking, “I’ll rest when…” stop.
Flip the script:
🔄 “I deserve to rest now.”
🔄 “I don’t need to be perfect to feel good about myself.”
🔄 “I’m allowed to slow down, even if everything isn’t ‘done.’”
Peace isn’t waiting at the finish line. It’s available to you right now.
2. Perfection Is Keeping You Stuck
The desire to be perfect? It’s not motivating you, it’s paralyzing you.
❌ You hesitate to try new things because you don’t want to fail.
❌ You procrastinate on your goals because what if it’s not good enough?
❌ You avoid resting because you haven’t ‘earned’ it yet.
But perfection is an illusion. And the more you chase it, the more stuck you become.
💭 What to do instead:
Instead of aiming for perfection, aim for progress.
📌 Done is better than perfect.
📌 Small steps matter more than flawless execution.
📌 You don’t have to be perfect to be worthy.
Repeat after me: I am not behind. I am exactly where I need to be.
3. Grace Is a Daily Practice, Not a One-Time Event
You wouldn’t expect a friend to be flawless, so why do you expect it from yourself?
Giving yourself grace isn’t a one-and-done decision; it’s a daily practice.
💭 What to do instead:
Each morning, ask yourself:
🔹 What’s one thing I can release today?
🔹 How can I show myself kindness instead of criticism?
🔹 If my best friend were feeling this way, what would I tell her?
Let grace be part of your routine, not a last resort.
4. Choose Peace, Even When It Feels Uncomfortable
For so long, you’ve been taught that hustling, over-giving, and striving for more is what makes you valuable.
So when you finally slow down? It feels… weird.
You might even feel guilty.
But that’s just because peace is unfamiliar, not wrong.
💭 What to do instead:
When peace feels uncomfortable, remind yourself:
📌 “I don’t have to prove my worth through exhaustion.”
📌 “I deserve ease, even if I’ve never had it before.”
📌 “Peace is my birthright, not something I have to earn.”
The more you choose peace, the more natural it will feel.
The Freedom of Choosing Grace
You were never meant to spend your life chasing impossible standards.
You were meant to live, to rest, to be enough exactly as you are.
Imagine a life where:
✨ You let yourself off the hook without guilt.
✨ You stop over-explaining why you need rest.
✨ You choose peace, even when others expect more from you.
You don’t have to wait for permission. You can choose grace today.
Let’s start now.
Book your Free MOMent Reset Call a space to pause, breathe, and shift the way you see yourself. Let’s create clarity, peace, and freedom together.
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