You’ve Been Holding It Down.
Now You Get to Be Held
You’ve outgrown the strong-but-smiling version of you
not to keep proving, but to start healing. No more ghosting your truth to make other people comfortable.
You’ve Been Holding It Down.
Now You Get to Be Held
You’ve outgrown the
strong-but-smiling version of you
not to keep proving, but to start healing. No more ghosting your truth to make other people comfortable.
MEET VALENCIA NEWSOME POSEY
I built a whole life trying to prove I was okay. I grew up in the hood, raised by a single mom. My dad was an addict. Some days, I got a glimpse of the father I needed, most days, I didn’t. Then I became a mom at 15. And people didn’t offer help… they offered judgment. So I made it okay myself.
I became the strong one. The responsible one. The one who didn’t need anybody. And I killed it. Raised my boys. Built a career. Held it all down. But even with all the wins, deep down… I was still waiting for someone to say, “I see you.”
That’s where The MOMent™ Method was born in that space between strength and survival. For the women who lead the home, keep the schedules, hold the prayers… and feel like they’re unraveling inside.
Hey, I’m Valencia Newsome Posey, founder of The MOMent™ Method. This is a real, raw space for women who are tired of being the strong one… and finally want to be the whole one.
If your brain won’t stop looping… if your strength feels like a performance…
If your outside looks like success, but your inside is spiraling, you’re my people.
This isn’t self-help. This is a sacred pause. A space to stop performing and start being. Let’s get real. Let’s get free. This is your MOMent™.
MEET VALENCIA NEWSOME POSEY
I built a whole life trying to prove I was okay. I grew up in the hood, raised by a single mom. My dad was an addict. Some days, I got a glimpse of the father I needed, most days, I didn’t. Then I became a mom at 15. And people didn’t offer help… they offered judgment. So I made it okay myself.
I became the strong one. The responsible one. The one who didn’t need anybody. And I killed it. Raised my boys. Built a career. Held it all down. But even with all the wins, deep down… I was still waiting for someone to say, “I see you.”
That’s where The MOMent™ Method was born in that space between strength and survival. For the women who lead the home, keep the schedules, hold the prayers… and feel like they’re unraveling inside.
Hey, I’m Valencia Newsome Posey, founder of The MOMent™ Method. This is a real, raw space for women who are tired of being the strong one… and finally want to be the whole one.
If your brain won’t stop looping… if your strength feels like a performance…
If your outside looks like success, but your inside is spiraling, you’re my people.
This isn’t self-help. This is a sacred pause. A space to stop performing and start being. Let’s get real. Let’s get free. This is your MOMent™.
You’ve Been Strong Too Long. You know it.
You know how to hold it down the house, the job, the people. But holding it together? That’s been getting harder to fake.
You’re tired of hearing “you’re so strong” when all you want is for someone to ask if you’re okay. Your brain’s loud, your body’s tired, and no one sees the fight behind your smile. You’ve done everything they said would make you happy, the degrees, the career, the family, the grind. But under all that?
There’s a version of you that’s exhausted from being “on” all the time…
…a version of you that’s whispering, “I can’t do this like this anymore.”
If that’s you, you’re in the right place. You don’t need to be fixed. You just need space to stop pretending.
You’ve Been Strong Too Long.
You know it.
You know how to hold it down the house, the job, the people. But holding it together? That’s been getting harder to fake.
You’re tired of hearing “you’re so strong” when all you want is for someone to ask if you’re okay. Your brain’s loud, your body’s tired, and no one sees the fight behind your smile. You’ve done everything they said would make you happy, the degrees, the career, the family, the grind. But under all that?
There’s a version of you that’s exhausted from being “on” all the time…
…a version of you that’s whispering, “I can’t do this like this anymore.”
If that’s you, you’re in the right place. You don’t need to be fixed. You just need space to stop pretending.
3-Month Private Coaching
This is for the woman who’s DONE performing, peacekeeping, and picking up the emotional slack for everyone but herself.
You’ll go from overthinking, emotional spiraling, and identity exhaustion… to emotional regulation, voice clarity, and self-led wholeness. Through deep nervous system work and identity reclamation, you’ll finally feel safe to be yourself without apology.
You’re not here for another mindset module.
You’re here for a full nervous system reset, one that helps you:
Unhook from the thought loops that keep you doubting your enoughness
Stop over-functioning to feel “worthy”
Stop over-functioning to feel “worthy”
12-Month Group Program
For the woman who’s ready for consistent emotional check-ins, truth reminders, and soul-led rhythm support.
You’ll stop minimizing, muting, and managing everyone’s emotions, and start anchoring back into your truth, your needs, and your rhythm. This is gentle, ongoing support that fits into your real life, not another thing to fall behind on.”
You’ve got the awareness, now you need a rhythm.
Inside this circle, you’ll build emotional routines that hold you, when life doesn’t.
This isn’t another “accountability group” that you ghost after week 2.
It’s your practice space. Your nervous system dojo.
Your reminder:
You don’t have to shrink to be safe.
A 15-minute micro-coaching call designed to interrupt
the spiral and bring your voice back online.
You’re holding a lot. This call is your space to exhale. Say what you’ve been scared to say and finally feel heard, not fixed.
Quiet the noise. Hear your truth.
Book your free MOMent RESET Call™
You’ve been carrying the weight. Thinking your way out of the pain.
Overriding your own truth just to keep things moving.
But when was the last time someone saw you before you had to explain yourself?
This 15-minute MOMent RESET Call™ is your emotional exhale.
Not a strategy call. Not a “book a breakthrough” gimmick.
Just real space, real safety, and one moment that belongs entirely to you.
What Happens on the Call:
A gentle check-in: Where are you holding the most emotional weight?
Uncover one repeating thought trauma left behind (that’s running the show)
A micro-tool or truth-reflection to help her interrupt the spiral
An invitation, if aligned, into your deeper coaching containers
Her ONE WIN From the Call
She hears her real voice maybe for the first time in years.
She’ll walk away saying:
Damn… I didn’t even realize how heavy that
thought was until I said it out loud.
This space is for the woman who…
Keeps showing up strong, but don’t know who she is when no one’s watching.
You’re the one people lean on. The one who handles it. But some days you look in the mirror and can’t even find yourself, just the version that performs, that fixes, that survives.
Is tired of holding in breakdowns just to keep up appearances.
You get quiet when it gets heavy, disappear behind smiles, laugh it off when you wanna scream. You’re scared if you ever actually let go, you won’t come back from it.
Built the life she was told to want, but still feels like something’s missing.
You did everything “right”, got the job, the partner, the degrees, the title. But why does it still feel like you’re faking it? Like you built a life that doesn’t even know you?
Feels stuck in loops, same fights, same fears, same triggers
You say you’re fine, but the anxiety be on loop. Same arguments. Same shutdowns. Same days where you check out and can’t explain why. You feel crazy but you’re just tired.
Is exhausted from managing everybody else’s needs but scared to name her own
You’ve been the peacekeeper, the planner, the strong one. You shrink so they don’t feel small. But you’re choking on your silence, and no one even knows you’re drowning.
Doesn’t want to just cope anymore, she wants to be free
You’re tired of patching yourself up just enough to function. You’re done making it look good. You want real peace. Real clarity. Real rest. Not this polished survival.
You don’t need another mindset trick or productivity hack.
You need a MOMent™
This space is for the woman who…
Keeps showing up strong, but don’t know who she is when no one’s watching.
You’re the one people lean on. The one who handles it. But some days you look in the mirror and can’t even find yourself, just the version that performs, that fixes, that survives.
Is tired of holding in breakdowns just to keep up appearances.
You get quiet when it gets heavy, disappear behind smiles, laugh it off when you wanna scream. You’re scared if you ever actually let go, you won’t come back from it.
Built the life she was told to want, but still feels like something’s missing.
You did everything “right”, got the job, the partner, the degrees, the title. But why does it still feel like you’re faking it? Like you built a life that doesn’t even know you?
Feels stuck in loops, same fights, same fears, same triggers
You say you’re fine, but the anxiety be on loop. Same arguments. Same shutdowns. Same days where you check out and can’t explain why. You feel crazy but you’re just tired.
Is exhausted from managing everybody else’s needs but scared to name her own
You’ve been the peacekeeper, the planner, the strong one. You shrink so they don’t feel small. But you’re choking on your silence, and no one even knows you’re drowning.
Doesn’t want to just cope anymore, she wants to be free
You’re tired of patching yourself up just enough to function. You’re done making it look good. You want real peace. Real clarity. Real rest. Not this polished survival.
You don’t need another mindset trick or productivity hack.
You need a MOMent™
The MOMent™ Method isn’t just a catchy name. It’s the interruption you didn’t know you were allowed to take.
It’s for the woman who’s been celebrated for her strength, but never checked on for her pain. The one who knows how to hold it down, but can’t remember the last time she felt held.
MOMent stands for Mirror. Own. Move. But it’s not a framework you check off. It’s a gut-level pause where you stop performing, tell the truth about what it’s costing you, and finally learn how to move forward without losing yourself in the process.
Whether you’re a mother, a mentor, the dependable one, or just a woman carrying more than she can name, this MOMent™ is yours.
The MOMent™ Method isn’t just a catchy name. It’s the interruption you didn’t know you were allowed to take.
It’s for the woman who’s been celebrated for her strength, but never checked on for her pain. The one who knows how to hold it down, but can’t remember the last time she felt held.
MOMent stands for Mirror. Own. Move. But it’s not a framework you check off. It’s a gut-level pause where you stop performing, tell the truth about what it’s costing you, and finally learn how to move forward without losing yourself in the process.
Whether you’re a mother, a mentor, the dependable one, or just a woman carrying more than she can name, this MOMent™ is yours.
The MOMentum™ Coaching Circle
This ain’t your average “check-in once a week” accountability group. This is your practice space to actually live what you’ve been learning because knowing the pattern doesn’t mean you’ve healed the wound. And just because you’re self-aware doesn’t mean you know what to do with it.
You’ve done the work, the therapy, the journaling, the praying. But sometimes, the loops come back louder, and life keeps handing you new tests you don’t feel ready for.
This circle is where we say the thing. The truth you’ve been too “strong” to say out loud. It’s where we untangle the quiet thoughts that make you spiral in silence and we build new rhythms that feel safe, not forced.
This is for the woman who’s ready to stop shrinking, micromanaging her emotions, and needing permission to breathe. You’re done performing worthiness. You’re ready to feel it for real.
👉🏽We meet monthly to check in, say the thing, and stay anchored in your truth. This is your reminder that you don’t have to do life on survival mode anymore.
Rewrite Your Story: MOMent Academy™
You’re not new to healing, you’re just tired of healing in secret. You’ve outgrown the affirmations. The mindset hacks. The “I’m fine.” You’ve done the church shout and the self-help shuffle, and yet when life hits, you still spiral. You still shrink. You still second-guess whether you’re allowed to have needs. You’re not the problem. You’re just running on emotional codes that never got rewritten.
In this 12-week group experience, we don’t focus on “fixing” you. We focus on helping you finally feel safe enough to stop performing. We untangle the childhood stories that taught you to hustle for love. We rewrite the emotional contracts that made you hide your truth, and we help you lead your life from clarity, not control.
This is for the high-achieving woman who’s done proving she’s enough, and is ready to finally feel it.
👉🏽 You don’t need another thing to add to your to-do list. You need the space to come home to your voice, your values, and your truth.
The Unmask Deep Reset Experience™
You’re not falling apart. You’re just finally tired of holding what no one helped you carry. This isn’t mindset work. This isn’t another “breakthrough” moment that fades after a week. This is a full-body, soul-deep reset where you finally stop performing strength and start making peace with your truth.
We don’t just talk about your patterns; we unmask the root that created them. The parents who didn’t see you. The friends who outgrew you once you stopped dimming your light. The coaches, leaders, or bosses who praised your grind but never your grace. The pressure to keep proving you’re not a mistake just because you’ve had to do it all alone.
You’ve spent your whole life proving you’re not broken. But what if you never were? What if you’ve just been tired from carrying too much for too long?
This 1:1 experience is where you finally put it all down. We get honest. We cry if we need to. We dig through the pieces you’ve been patching with perfection. And we rebuild gently, deeply, and without apology. This is for the woman who’s done coping. She’s done surviving. She’s ready to remember who she was before life made her forget.
👉🏽 You don’t need another strategy. You need a space where you don’t have to explain yourself, just a place to exhale and start becoming again.
The MOMentum™ Coaching Circle
This ain’t your average “check-in once a week” accountability group. This is your practice space to actually live what you’ve been learning because knowing the pattern doesn’t mean you’ve healed the wound. And just because you’re self-aware doesn’t mean you know what to do with it.
You’ve done the work, the therapy, the journaling, the praying. But sometimes, the loops come back louder, and life keeps handing you new tests you don’t feel ready for.
This circle is where we say the thing. The truth you’ve been too “strong” to say out loud. It’s where we untangle the quiet thoughts that make you spiral in silence and we build new rhythms that feel safe, not forced.
This is for the woman who’s ready to stop shrinking, micromanaging her emotions, and needing permission to breathe. You’re done performing worthiness. You’re ready to feel it for real.
👉🏽We meet monthly to check in, say the thing, and stay anchored in your truth. This is your reminder that you don’t have to do life on survival mode anymore.
Rewrite Your Story: MOMent Academy™
You’re not new to healing, you’re just tired of healing in secret. You’ve outgrown the affirmations. The mindset hacks. The “I’m fine.” You’ve done the church shout and the self-help shuffle, and yet when life hits, you still spiral. You still shrink. You still second-guess whether you’re allowed to have needs. You’re not the problem. You’re just running on emotional codes that never got rewritten.
In this 12-week group experience, we don’t focus on “fixing” you. We focus on helping you finally feel safe enough to stop performing. We untangle the childhood stories that taught you to hustle for love. We rewrite the emotional contracts that made you hide your truth, and we help you lead your life from clarity, not control.
This is for the high-achieving woman who’s done proving she’s enough, and is ready to finally feel it.
👉🏽 You don’t need another thing to add to your to-do list. You need the space to come home to your voice, your values, and your truth.
The Unmask Deep Reset Experience™
You’re not falling apart. You’re just finally tired of holding what no one helped you carry. This isn’t mindset work. This isn’t another “breakthrough” moment that fades after a week. This is a full-body, soul-deep reset where you finally stop performing strength and start making peace with your truth.
We don’t just talk about your patterns; we unmask the root that created them. The parents who didn’t see you. The friends who outgrew you once you stopped dimming your light. The coaches, leaders, or bosses who praised your grind but never your grace. The pressure to keep proving you’re not a mistake just because you’ve had to do it all alone.
You’ve spent your whole life proving you’re not broken. But what if you never were? What if you’ve just been tired from carrying too much for too long?
This 1:1 experience is where you finally put it all down. We get honest. We cry if we need to. We dig through the pieces you’ve been patching with perfection. And we rebuild gently, deeply, and without apology. This is for the woman who’s done coping. She’s done surviving. She’s ready to remember who she was before life made her forget.
👉🏽 You don’t need another strategy. You need a space where you don’t have to explain yourself, just a place to exhale and start becoming again.
Stop the Self-Talk Spiral: How to Speak to Yourself with Kindness
How often do you find yourself saying things to yourself that you’d never say to someone else?
“You’re not doing enough.”
“You’re failing.”
“You’ll never get it right.”
We all have moments of self-doubt, but for so many moms, it’s more like a constant loop in the back of your mind. The world tells you to be perfect, and when you’re not, that inner critic tears you apart.
Here’s the thing: the way you speak to yourself matters. Those words you repeat in your head become your beliefs, and your beliefs shape your life.
What if you started speaking to yourself the way you’d encourage a friend? What if, instead of criticizing yourself, you chose kindness?
In this blog, we’ll unpack how to silence the inner critic, reframe your self-talk, and build affirmations that remind you of your worth.
1. Catch the Critic in Action
Your inner critic doesn’t announce itself with a megaphone—it sneaks in quietly. It’s that voice that tells you, “You’re not doing enough,” when you’re already running on empty.
Start by paying attention to when these thoughts show up. Is it when you’re overwhelmed at work? When you see a mom on social media who seems to have it all together? When you’ve had a tough day with your kids?
The key is awareness. Write these moments down in a journal, along with the exact thought you had. For example:
“I’m failing because I couldn’t make dinner tonight.”
“I don’t deserve to rest because I didn’t finish everything on my list.”
By naming these thoughts, you’re taking the first step in taking away their power.
2. Challenge the Lies
Once you’ve identified the thoughts, it’s time to challenge them. Ask yourself:
“Is this thought true?”
“What evidence do I have to disprove it?”
“What would I say to my best friend if she said this about herself?”
For example:
Critic: “I’m failing as a mom because I missed that school event.”
Truth: “I’m not failing. I’m working hard to support my family, and missing one event doesn’t erase that.”
Challenging these thoughts doesn’t come naturally at first, but with practice, you’ll start to see how often your inner critic exaggerates.
3. Rewrite the Script
Here’s where the real work begins: rewriting those thoughts into something kinder and more empowering. Start with one negative thought per day and practice reframing it.
For example:
Critic: “I’m not doing enough.”
Truth: “I’m doing the best I can, and that’s more than enough.”
If you find yourself slipping back into old patterns, remind yourself: this is a process. Change doesn’t happen overnight, but every small step matters.
4. Create a Confidence-Boosting Mantra
Think of this as your personal pep talk. A mantra is a short, powerful phrase that reminds you of your worth. Here are a few examples:
“I am worthy of rest, joy, and love.”
“I am doing enough, just as I am.”
“I am more than my inner critic.”
Write it down, repeat it daily, and watch how your mindset shifts over time.
Your inner voice has been shaping your life, but you have the power to rewrite it. Speak to yourself with the same kindness you’d show a friend.
Start with one thought today. Catch it, challenge it, and reframe it into something that builds you up instead of tearing you down.
Want more tools to transform your mindset? Join the Unstoppable Mom Community and learn how to silence self-doubt and build unshakable confidence.
Testimonials
Testimonials
Office: White Plains, Maryland
Copyright 2025 . All rights reserved
Office: White Plains, Maryland
Copyright 2025 . All rights reserved